Q:
My family is constantly getting after me because I have a hard time making decisions, not just about big things but small things, too. I wish I wasn't so indecisive, but I guess that's the way God made me. Do you have any advice?
A:
We all have different personalities, and (as I’ve often said) the world certainly would be a dull place if we didn’t! The Psalmist’s prayer includes both our bodies and minds: “You created my inmost being…. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made” (Psalm 139:13-14).
At the same time, we must not blame God for our shortcomings and failures, nor should we use Him as an excuse to avoid changing our lives — with His help. God doesn’t want us to irritate others or cause them unnecessary problems, and when something about us creates friction, we need to examine ourselves and see if something needs to change. The Bible says, “Search me, God, and know my heart…. See if there is any offensive way in me” (Psalm 139:23-24).
This is why I urge you to do whatever you can to become less indecisive. It’s not wrong to think through the decisions we need to make, of course; sometimes a hasty decision is worse than no decision. But when you face decisions, ask God to guide you and help you think them through. God loves us and is even concerned about the small things in our lives.
In addition, ask God to help you gain confidence in your ability to make wise decisions, instead of being paralyzed by the fear you might be wrong. And this will happen, as you develop the courage to make timely decisions. Above all, don’t delay making the most important decision you will ever make—the decision to give your life to Jesus Christ.