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Topics: Parenting

Q:

My parents treat me like a child. Why can't they give me more freedom?


A:

Growing up is a painful process for you and your parents! As you go through this difficult period of adjustment together, it is important to follow the scriptural counsel that children are to obey their parents; see Ephesians 6:1-3 and Colossians 3:20. Part of growing up is having a desire to become more independent. As you are obedient and responsible, you will show that you are prepared for more independence.

If you know Christ as your Lord and Savior, He will help you honor your parents. Plus, the happiest young people we know are those who have discovered the joy of living for Christ. When we are "reconciled to God," it usually follows that we are in harmony with others. Whenever relationship problems arise, we can bring them to God in prayer and receive the practical instructions and help given in Romans 12:9-21 and Philippians 4:13.

The apostle Paul encourages the young when he says, "Don't let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for the believers in speech, in life, in love, in faith and in purity" (1 Timothy 4:12). May God grant you and your parents wisdom in learning how to communicate love, honor, and respect to each other.